Words from Tambu-christel: “Baby daddies VS a Husband.”

Via Facebook.

Many of us women have more worries over having #BabyDaddies than a #Husband let me tell you that having a GREAT HUSBAND is so much more valuable than having baby daddies. Do not “duhh” this comment because you probably have a baby daddy(ies) yet no husband yourself. Not throwing shades at anyone but we have to keep it 💯.
I don’t wanna hear the delusional bitches calling their boyfriends, husbands. Bitch, YOU ARE NOT MARRIED. Deal with your ACTUAL status. If he doesn’t wanna marry you and you are staying with him it’s on you. DO NOT give yourself titles that YOU DO NOT HAVE. It’s insulting to actual MARRIED WOMEN. You are nothing but a BABY MAMA/GIRLFRIEND at whatever years old. Just STFU. Please stay in your lane, thank you.
Yes it is true that it is wise to wait before marriage (something I need to write down lol) but why do we wait to get married and get all choosy and sceptical about marriage YET we have no problem baring all this children without a second blink. We don’t wait. We dont get skeptical. We dont question these men. We have a million different BDs by the time we’re 30. However, we want to talk that talk when it comes to getting married. Not only that but we think we’re smart as shit bringing fake ass points and facts to the conversations/ arguments about marriage??
Yes, it sucks to marry then divorce to eventually re-marry but is it really better to have several baby daddies and no commitments? The stress of single parenthood? Chasing the other party? Whether you want to admit it or not MANY of us had/have post natal depression while these n*ggas go out to the clubs, stay fucking more bitches and we’re here wondering how we got here giving up on school, work, social life etc. Many of you won’t admit it but YOU DID GET MAD when your BD weren’t the father you wanted him to be BUT ALSO THAT HE WASNT THERE FOR YOU… not just the baby BUT YOU TOO. Why? because there are emotions that ONLY YOUR BD can fix. Not your mum. Not your grandmother BUT HIM and you played it like you dont care for the “are you alright baby” that you need when pregnant. The “you did an amazing job” and hug you NEED after hours of labour. Yes, it pisses you off that you spend a year pregnant and he called you a bitch. Beat yo ass. Gave you all type of reputations in these streets BUT he now plays good dad and drops selfies with yall babies IGNORING THE FACT that his neglect could have caused you a miscarriage or whatever. If you really got it bad? He would have blamed the miscarriage on you too!! 
Yes, having a husband doesnt guarentee faithfullness. It doesnt exempt you from domestic violence. It doesnt mean you gon be together forever etc etc BUT how is a baby daddy/ baby mama deal better?
Y’all need to MAKE/LET these men LOVE YOU and RESPECT YOU first!!! Y’all need to make these men VALUE THE ENTIRE PROCESS OF LOVE MAKING AND BABY MAKING!! These men NEED to respect y’all and all the magic your body does. If he doesn’t THEN HE GOTTA GO!!! PERIOD!!
No “bad bitch” shit.

No “get this pussy” shit.
Get you a man that will give you all the EMOTIONAL SUPPORT you need!! Double check your standards and values yo. Trust me it took me a while. I’m not perfect. Know better. Be better. Teach better.
PS.: It’s late so typos are everywhere. I cant be bothered to correct them all smh im tired but you get the point.

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